Mothers and Nannies Part 5
Have you ever witnessed poor behavior by other Nannies? (strike through):
CRUELTY (TEASING, FAVORITISM, WITHHOLDING TREATS, AFFECTION)
SMACKING, PULLING, SHAKING
NEGLECT (LEAVING INFANT IN SOILED DAIPER, IGNORING A CRYING BABY, ALLOWING ACCIDENTS TO HAPPEN)
Describe what you saw/heard:
Anna – The only think (thing) that I saw a lot of times were Nannies on the playgrounds who did not care about their kids at all. They were standing around in the circle and talking while the kids that they were taking care of were dying to get out of the strollers. I saw a lot of times lonely kids on the playground and the Nannies that did not pay attention to them at all.
Lisa – Neglect. I saw a lot of Nannies who don’t get treated well by their employers take it out on their employer’s children. Especially when they want them (children) to obey them (Nannies) like a lunchtime or a bath-time. A lot of Nannies weren’t able to express verbally the importance of bathing or eating vegetables or saying ‘hello’ or ‘goodbye’ to guests… (beyond) ‘because I say so’ …Children deserve more than that.
Do you think that ‘Bad Nannies’ are wholly to blame for their actions? If not, who else is?
Anna – That might be several reasons like terrible relationship with parents of the child or extremely difficult child. The other thing is just simply not everyone was born to be a babysitter.
Lisa – I think the parents are ultimately responsible for the treatment of their children. They (parents) have to take the time to find a good Nanny through interviews, references, personal taste. If they are taking their time to find someone they can truly communicate with, then there is hope that the child will also be communicated with in a healthy way.
What advice would you give to any parent to prevent them from hiring a potentially ‘Bad’ Nanny?
Anna – First of all they should ‘turn on the instinct’. They should watch her (Nanny) with a child, asked what would she do in several different situations with kids.
Lisa – Do research. Have guidelines. Ask other parents or teachers. Don’t base your decision on money. Introduce them (Nanny) to your children to see if there is a connection – that is the most important thing. So you know your child will listen to that person.
In my next blog I will lift the lid on ‘Mom blogs’ to detail what mothers really think and feel about modern childcare.