She is the woman who taughtHelena Bonham Carter to “parent” her partner.
Childcare guru Noël Janis-Norton, 66, was employed by the actress to improve relations with her children, after the star found family life was “much harder than acting”.
But the Oscar nominee
says the “Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting” plan worked just as well on her film director partner Tim Burton
Calmer, easier, happier the method
Bonham Carter, 44, said her life has been transformed after she, Burton and their children’s nanny attended a seven-week course and private sessions with Ms Janis-Norton – while Burton is “a changed man”.
Son Billy Ray, seven, and two-year-old daughter Nell are also enjoying the change, according to their mother.
“Tim used to say ‘Where’s such and such?’ and I would scurry around looking for it,” she said.
“Now, I make him do it – and the same with the kiddies. It just stops you running around doing every single thing for them.”
Bonham Carter, nominated for a best supporting actress Oscar for her role as the Queen Mother in The King’s Speech
, said the course “has changed my life.
“I think because it has taken the stress out of parenting, or some of it at least, I’ll probably live 10 years longer. It makes people think for themselves instead of me, the mother, doing
everything for them.”
Ms Janis-Norton said: “Helena
came by herself to group class and I’ve had private sessions with her and Tim and the nanny. So it’s a united front they’re surrounding their children with.
“She’s extremely easy to work with because she’s very open and has a great sense of humour. It’s lovely, but the fact that she’s famous is not what makes it lovely. It’s so heart-warming to know that we’re contributing, making the world a better place.
“She’s absolutely delightful to work with, very open, lots of fun and her children are very sweet.”
Ms Janis-Norton started developing her method while she was a teacher in New York
. A few years later she moved to London, where she founded The New Learning Centre. She teaches parents 16 skills to improve their relationship with their children, including “descriptive praise”, “preparing for success” and “reflective listening”.
She said descriptive praise “is much more effective than the usual way of praising children with phrases such as ‘good girl’, or ‘clever boy’… that kind of praise is not very believable. Instead, we teach parents to take a few minutes to notice what children are doing and describe that behaviour to the child.
“We very strongly believe we should not do someone else’s thinking for them. If someone asks you where something is, you say, ‘I haven’t seen it’.”
The Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting method teaches parents 16 skills. These include:
Preparing for success – focus on planning so that things go right, rather than on reacting when things go wrong.
Descriptive praise – motivate, teach and correct children through a new kind of appreciation.
The six steps for achieving co-operation – what to do when your child says no.
Dealing with emotions – help your children to express emotions appropriately rather than to behave inappropriately.
Establishing rules and routines – how to make your boundaries and expectations clear and then follow through calmly.