Monday Problem Page: People Think I’m the Nanny
Dear Nanny X,
I cannot believe the racist assumptions people make about families today even in Brooklyn! I’m the proud mom of three gorgeous kids. And – no – we don’t have a Nanny. Dear hubby is Caucasian and I’m a light-skinned African American woman. We’re both educated professionals – we met at Yale – but I took some time out of my career to raise my own children. My kids all take after my husband and I guess the most ethnic they look is Spanish. I cannot tell you how many times somebody has asked me if I’m the Nanny! Sometimes in the playground when I’m watching my two year old someone will come straight over to my child and ask “Are you lost honey?” It makes me mad how people will jump to conclusions. I’m close to boiling over it’s happened so many times now. What do you think I should say or do next time it happens?
Dear Cynthia T,
first thanks for dropping in the Yale reference as I may just have assumed you went to community college under affirmative action. You have 3 healthy gorgeous children and a nice husband. You can afford to take time out of your career to raise your own children. Fabulous. Plus you probably live in a leafy safe part of Brooklyn. Wait.
What was your problem again? Oh right …. (you think), when people look at you they think:
instead of this:
Cynthia T I just have to tell you, 1) Some people are stupid 2) Some people are busy-bodies 3) Some people will make assumptions about you because they are (see #1).
As I posted on MSNBC last week: